Top 10 Common Reasons why Siblings Fight
Having a sibling is undoubtedly the best gift your parents can ever give you. Having somebody living under the same roof, who understands you and your life, has seen you growing, actually has grown up with you is amazing. Our siblings often make our best friends too and sure we love them to the core.
But a sibling relationship has more than one shade to it. The affection and intimacy is not the only thing that rules this relationship but it also contains in itself arguments, misunderstandings and a truck load of issues that may have been there since childhood or have emerged up lately. And there’s no denying the fact that siblings fight a lot, like literally a lot! But what do they most commonly fight for? Let’s have a look.
While living in a house we all have to do certain household chores that are important and needed to be done. Of course we can do them on our own but another convenient option is to pass it on to our brother or sister. Who will go to grocery store to purchase the essentials, who will help mom clear the dishes after dinner, who will help dad to wash the car. There’s a long list of such chores which make siblings fight with each other because neither of them wants to do it. The last time I remember fighting with my brother was for who will get up to open the door when bell rang. Yes, I’m pathetically lazy but come on, I’m not only one to fight because of such a frivolous thing.
No matter how many chips bags your dad buys or what number of cupcakes your mom has baked for everyone they will never be enough for the children. Siblings fighting for more snacks or any food item are too common and it happens in every household. Even though the parents try their best to divide the food equally one always ends up feeling that the other has gotten more. Then it can be an extra scoop of ice cream or a little extra drop of chocolate syrup, it will make them fight.
Oh yes! Many of the most brutal fights on this planet occur fighting for a television remote. Everyone doesn’t have a similar personality, eventually everyone has their own taste and the choice of television programs they want to watch. You might like watching sports where your sister hates it and wants to watch her cartoons and nobody in the house wants to bend and cooperate. Also buying an individual television set for each child of the family is out of the question for many. So the siblings end up snatching the television remote and fighting over who will watch the television.
7. Age Difference
Siblings always have some age difference between them which makes one of them the younger and the other one the elder one. Even this age difference can create many conflicts between them and make them fight with each other. Both of them do have their own benefits but they surely think that their life sucks while the other one has a way with everything at home. The elder gets more freedom and less intrusion by the parents which will not be liked by the younger one. On the other hand, the younger one gets more pampering and attention and can even get away with their mistakes just by playing the “I’m younger and naive card”. This can make the elder feel neglected and ultimately they end up fighting with each other.
Jealousy is a humanly trait and you cannot blame your 10 year old child for feeling jealous even though it’s regarding his/her own sibling. Jealousy can often pop up among siblings if one of them is more talented than others, be it in sports, academic or extra activities or apparently has a better life. The talented one will eventually be appreciated more by outsiders and also within the family. This can generate a bunch of negative feelings in the minds of other sibling(s) who somehow feel unworthy or useless. And these negative feeling will also give rise to fights among them.
5. Parents’ attention
Usually parents are cautious regarding devoting equal amount of attention and love to each of their child. But even then they end up being closer and more attentive to one than others. This might happen because that particular child has special needs or should be taken extra care of but this again makes the other siblings a little hostile towards them and will cause fights between them. One of them will feel neglected and crave for his parents’ love while seeing his brother or sister getting that will make them fight with each other.
4. Personality clashes
Even while sharing the same gene pool, siblings can also have totally different personalities from each other just like any other two individuals who don’t think alike. These can rise up from the differences in their opinions, beliefs or liking regarding various things. They might be discussing over anything random from happenings at home or even politics and end up arguing because they can’t agree to each other. These personality clashes can’t really be avoided and fights occurring because of these between siblings are also almost inevitable.
3. Ego issues
Ego problem is also not rare to see in siblings and making them fight with each other. These can also be arising from the age difference as the moment younger one talks in a little rude manner the other one can get offended as “how you dare talk to me like this, I’m elder than you”. Or the younger can be all like “Being elder doesn’t give you the right to boss around”. These ego issues are too common to come up and lead to fights between two siblings.
2. Being the FAVORITE kid
Every kid wants to be the favorite of their parents then it can be academically, in sports, in activities or just general behaviour. They want their parents to love them the most and not their sibling. This always keeps the siblings in a competition to be the best and “win” their parents. Sometimes this competition is healthy as they would work hard or try to improve themselves but this can also turn ugly and there are times when they simply turn to demeaning the other one. Thus even this constant competition to become the favorite kid is also a common reason for the fights.
1. We fight with the ones whom we love
Even after having all these issues and fights there is no qualm about how much we love our siblings. And it is also a known fact that we fight the most with people whom we love. This can be because at times we take them for granted and don’t really care about our attitude towards them. A person would try to be nice to the people outside his home because nobody would take his shit if he ain’t polite with them. But with our siblings we do get rude, show unnecessary attitude and argue even when they have no fault. Sometimes we just use them to vent out some frustration after a bad day and because they are around us for most of the time they happen to be the ones to see our ugly side too.