Top 10 Values that Should be Instilled in Children from a very Young Age
I remember an incident which was differently hilarious and an eye opener because it made me think a lot. It was during my high school days, when one of my friends saw a cute kid and told her “hey your dress is beautiful, you look cute!” for which the kid replied in a very stern and sarcastic tone “I know. I didn’t ask you! Did I?”
After hearing that my friend was shocked and I burst out laughing, little amused after witnessing such a very different conversation for the first time in my life. But later I wondered, “How does a little kid talk like that?” A normal, innocent and polite kid would say “oh thank you!” with a very happy broad smile. Later I saw many such kids lacking some of the most important values. In fact I did not understand what’s happening in today’s world! Where has all the innocence, politeness, manners, etc., gone among the kids of this generation?
There is an adage in the South Indian language, “One that is not sown and grown at the age of 5, can never be done at 50.” Any quality that is not instilled in a child at a very young age can not be expected to crop up all of sudden after the child grows up! It is almost the same as the saying which states “As you sow, so shall you reap.”
Have you seen people who are so refined, most respected and warmly welcomed in the society? How do you think they are like that? Is it a magic that turned them into such fine men and noble women in one night? Of course not! It is all in the way they were brought up. Those wonderful qualities were instilled in them when they were really very young, even without their own knowledge.
We see brats, pampered kids, extremely polite and well mannered and various other kinds of children everywhere around us showing very different characters and behavior. All these can be changed; nurtured and instilled when they are quite young which eventually determines their life standards and status in the society in their future.
Here are the top 10 values that should be instilled in children from a very young age in order to turn them into fine men and women in their future.
10. Cleanliness and Self Discipline
Some kids are always shabby and unhealthy because they do not know how to stay clean! Children should be taught to stay clean and maintain cleanliness around them. They should be taught how to keep things in order and how to maintain it. Hygiene plays a vital role in kid’s health. Most of the health issues and spread of various infections are usually seen in children because of lack of hygiene. Kids are cuter when they are neat and tidy, right? Elders can not always stick around and check the environment. In fact kids are smarter than adults once they are taught what and how to do things! Self discipline is also very important. Those who lack it, grow up into really clumsy human beings!
9. Content and Adapt
How many people are really contented with what they have? When you buy a brand new phone from your hard earned money for say, 10,000 bucks and then you see your colleague having a phone for 15,000 bucks and feel disheartened. Why? It is because you are not contented with what you have. This contentment can be instilled in children when they are young. They can be taught to stay happy with that little toy which has colorful lights on them over those expensive remote controlled ones. Children do not know to differentiate things based on cost or technology. All they know is fun and happiness. They do not know to compare things until elders do. It’s the elders that spoil the kid with the idea of dissatisfaction. Adapting to any situation is also important for man’s survival. A man should be able to survive in a bungalow as well as in a hut. He should know to adapt according to the society and people. It just depends on the attitude which is planted in ones mind at an early age!
Nowadays, we see many loners. They hardly know how to mingle with people and be friendly. They are always neglected by the society. Children are always born with a charm, a smile that can make a million friends, the eyes that sparkle with great positive energy. Man is a social animal because he can make friends and socialize with fellow humans. Who would like to see a kid grow up all alone? Kids have the magic around them that can melt even a heart made of iron. It just needs to be nurtured, right? They should be taught to be friendly with every one and treat everyone with a warm heart, else they never will.
This is the most important quality and in fact my most favorite lesson that I learnt when I was 5 years old. I was a very cool liar and I never knew that it was wrong until my elder sister took the blame for a mistake that she did not do and got scolded. I escaped from being punished, but the tears from her eyes moved me. I was caught by guilt. My own conscience pricked me. She could have told that it was not her mistake, but she didn’t. She protected her liar sister. And guess what? Since that day, I became the most honest person one could ever see and I have maintained the same till now. I will for the rest of my life. It made my life simple and easy. Man can live a guilt free life, if he is honest. There’s nothing to hide, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Just plain truth would do. It makes it all worth it. Doesn’t it?
Now, don’t you think that a lesson learnt and the qualities instilled at very young age leave a great mark in one’s mind?
6. Ability to Accept Mistakes and Defeat
How many people can come out boldly and say, “Yes, it’s my fault, am sorry” or “Well, I lost this time, Congratulations. I will do better next time” from the bottom of their hearts and take it positively? Most people can’t. It’s natural that their ego won’t allow them to do it. Nowadays, even 3 year old children hesitate to apologize. They feel crumpled and ashamed! They can’t take defeat as a stepping stone for success. Instead they curl up into their shells. Children should be taught to take both victory and defeat equally with a broad mind. If they win, they should be taught to take it as a reward for their hard work. If they lose, they should be told to take it as a challenge. After all, no winner is born; they are just normal human beings created through positive attitude and sheer hard work!
We often see brats. Arrogant people who are so proud of their talents, wealth, fame, what not! People stick around them like flies around sweets just because they have something they need from those brats. They speak sweet and kind words in the front and curse all the way in their minds! Nobody likes arrogance. Being humble is quite a rarity these days. A person should be grateful for having all the wonderful qualities. A child with too much of pride ends up being a narcissistic prince / princess, loved by none. Humility, modesty should be planted when the person is young else it will be too late to learn.
We live in world where time is given more premium than money. Every minute is precious. I have a friend whom I feel is the most reliable. Do you know why? It is because of his ultimate time sense. If I ask him to come at 8.30 am, he will be there at exactly 8.28 am. Not even once has he ever been late in our 7 years of friendship. Punctuality is a symbol of perfection, reliability and it also expresses the sincerity and respect towards the other person. Punctuality is more like a character, a habit practiced over many years. Sometimes it is an inherent quality. It can’t just crop up in a day!
Well, that’s some extinct term in today’s world. Isn’t it? Respect is given for people with money and power. Once they lose it, they are hardly even noticed. Respect for parents, friends, relatives, every human being, and every living being is something that’s endangered right now. Parents are neglected, friends are ditched, and partners are dumped while animals and birds are not even considered as fellow living beings on the earth. There is no respect for life. This is some major quality that must be instilled in every child – Respect.
2. Share and Care
The world is bound by love and care. When you see a pregnant woman on the bus, standing, you automatically get up and offer your seat. How did you know that? You were taught when you were little. Weren’t you? She is some stranger, but you did care for her, and that made you happy, right? If you have never done, try it once. Your legs might hurt, but at the end of the day you will feel great. Every living being is selfish in some way or the other for the sake of survival. But there is always some little space for some unconditional love, which is perennial among children. To care for others and share what one has, is an extension of that love. In fact we all know that sharing is caring and that joy shared is joy doubled while sorrows shared are halved. It provides relief and sense of satisfaction in life and every child deserves it. Don’t they?
1. Forget and Forgive
Vengeance and revenge are the biggest enemies that cause problems in relationships, corporate and industries and war between different countries. It is the base for violence and destruction. The simplest solution for everything is “To Forget and Forgive.” Have you seen children fighting and then playing together the very next minute? That’s sweet, isn’t it? Some don’t and they are the ones that grow up in to those vengeance and revenge seeking beasts! The world can be converted into a place full of love, peace and happiness if every child is planted with the idea of forgiving in their mind at a very young age. Why imagine the existence of heaven if it can be created on our earth by the mere act of forgiveness? I wish we had a time machine….